Rights are the same for everyone.
We all have the same rights, the rights of a human being, of someone who matters. We all matter. For instances we all have the right to be heard, the right to have our needs and desires attended to, the right to be safe, to feel safe, the right to make our own choices, the right to equality and empowerment.
These basic rights do not change with a role change. What changes with a role change are the responsibilities. Each role has its own responsibilities associated with it.
No one’s rights change when their role changes.
Too often people gain a position of relative power and they think they have gained more rights. They think their entitlements have changed. They are wrong, what changes are their responsibilities. They may think they now have:
The right for more respect: No! Respected is earnt, not claimed.
The right to tell others what to do: No! Everyone has the right of choice. Instead often the role change requires more responsibility to inspire and empower.
The right to control: No! The role may be to set the goal, the tasks, the standards, and ensure the outcomes. However with it comes the responsibility to empower and create an enabling environment. Thus a role’s associated responsibility may include the respectful use of inspiration, empowerment, alignment (get people on board) and accountability (follow through on agreement).
When your role changes what changes is your responsibilities.
We all have the responsibility to provide required resources, inspiration, empowerment and accountability related to our roles.
We all have the responsibility to develop our skill set for our roles, at the same time we have the right of choice to claim ownership of our responsibilities, effectively our life.
Will you claim your right to take ownership of your role and build your ability to fulfil your responsibilities? Or will you fall for the idea of a right to control and blame others. Will you attempt to claim the rights you think come with the role? It’s your choice. That is a basic right after all.
If you want to practice the art of Respectful Communication and Relationships ask yourself what your responsibilities are for each of your roles and how do you fulfil them. I promise it is not via demanding others do as you want them to. Demanding what you want builds resistance, resentment and wastes resources. Inspiring, building mutual purpose and developing the ability to fulfil and enact role purpose within those you are responsible for is far easier and effective. At the same time it does require having a team that is on board. This requires clarity of purpose and values.
Act now. The two key first actions:
- Get clear on your first choice. Do you want to be a controller or a cooperative empowerer? Do you want to be part of the new world order where respect is a guiding principle and equality rules?
- Get clear on your personal values. If your not sure how to do this watch out for the next article, it will explain the how and why.